I had joined a page on Facebook that was largely devoted to black pride and included a lot of pictures of proud dark skinned men and women together. Sometimes the women were pregnant symbolizing the need to be fruitful and multiply. I enjoyed some of these images but not all of them. As I mentioned, most of the pictures were of dark skinned African-Americans. But if you go to almost any African-American event, you will find that we are a broad range of colors. This reflects our heritage, especially since inter-racial marriages have increased over the years. I have a wonderful dark-skinned co-worker who is married to a white man. She’s also the person who recruited me for my job.
The director of our agency is a very light-skinned African-American in an inter-racial marriage. My nephew has been married to a wonderful woman who happens to be white and has a white stepson and an interracial daughter. I was married to a white woman and I have had relationships with women of all colors. And don’t forget that President Obama was raised by his white mother and her parents. After so many years in this country, we are a rainbow involved in many different types of relationships. None of this diversity was reflected by the Facebook page.
The two things that made me leave the page yesterday involved a picture of white women kissing dogs and a very stereotyped picture of black gay men. The comments about the women included one saying that white people smelled like dogs. I pointed out that smell is not based upon skin complexion and that as a mental health worker I would be fired if I treated people based upon the color of their skin. The picture of the black gay men almost made me vomit, it was so disgusting. We need to understand that there are many different types of African-Americans and we don’t have to agree on everything but we must agree on one thing: we are all equal. African-Americans are mixed, dark, light and something in between. They may have have many different beliefs. We may be gay, straight, transsexual or none of your business. I don’t support African-American prejudice any more than I support whites prejudging us.